Don’t make the mistake of thinking that just because you are an introvert, you can’t be confident!   In this weeks newsletter, I will share my Confidence Tips for Introverts – tips that are just a little different than those for Extroverts.

The difference between Introverts and Extroverts

Introverts get their energy from the inside – rather than from the outside.  Introverts need solitude and alone time to feel energised from the inside out.  Extroverts however, get their energy by spending time other people.  Being alone allows an introvert to disconnect from the world. They re- charge their energy from within and spending too much time around other people drains them.

I am an Introvert!

Despite being a Confidence Coach, regularly appearing in the media and being a guest speaker on Cruise ships, , I am indeed an introvert! I love being alone and if I spend too much time around other people, I can end up feeling drained, exhausted and a little resentful.   As a result,  I have learned to make sure that I have sufficient alone time every day to recharge my batteries.   It is not selfish, it is self care!

Here are my top 10 tips for Confidence for Introverts:

  1. Being introverted is a personality trait,  Don’t make it mean that there is something wrong with you.  It is a personal preference. Own it and you will be able to perform at your best.
  2. Honour your emotions.  Notice when you have had enough of company and respect yourself enough to take some time out.  Don’t be afraid to leave situations early if you have had enough.
  3. Don’t be bullied by other people into doing things you don’t want to do.    In my personal experience, I have found many people just believe I am being awkward or anti social.  Let them think what they want and don’t be bullied into doing anything you don’t want to do.
  4. Listen to your body. If you are starting to feel tired, listen to what your body is telling you. Know your limits and respect them. Don’t keep going because you feel you ‘ should do’ . Care more about how you feel.
  5. Change your self-talk. Our self-talk has a huge impact on our confidence and resilience. So, instead of convincing yourself that you may find large events or groups draining, learn to encourage yourself instead.   Tell yourself that you will be able to handle it.
  6. Choose wisely who you spend your time with.  As much as possible, spend time with people who add to your energy, instead of drain your energy.  Avoid those energy vampires!
  7. Many introverts prefer to talk to one person or a small group rather than holding the attention of a crowd. If out socialising in public,  find one person to have a more ‘ heart based’ conversation with rather than trying to fit in with the larger crowd.
  8. Make a note of what triggers you. What  leaves you feeling overstimulated? If you know what is likely to trigger you, put self-care steps in place to find workarounds.
  9. If you find yourself stuck in a conversation that is draining you, don’t be afraid to be assertive and excuse yourself. Remember, you are the only person who is responsible for maintaining your wellbeing.
  10. Finally,  don’t be afraid to say No to things that you know will drain you.   Find time to meet up with friends individually rather than in a big group.  Don’t be afraid to leave a situation as well if you feel too exhausted.

Confidence Coaching with Lisa Phillips

Currently based in Northamptonshire,   Lisa Phillips is the author of ‘ The Confidence Coach’ book.  She is also the Confidence Coaching expert on ‘ The Love Destination TV’.

Lisa has over 20 years experience.   Why not contact her today to find out how she can help you increase your confidence and self esteem?   Lisa works with clients internationally via Online Coaching.