Do you have a specific area of your life that you have been struggling with for months or even years? Is it the amount of money in your life, your lack of career prospects or healthy relationships, your lack of confidence or the lack of consistent joy and happiness in your life? Do you get frustrated that you cannot seem to allow what you want into your life?
What if I told you that you could improve any area in your life right now just by changing the way you are looking at it?
The Law of Attraction
We live in a vibrational or energy based universe. As a result of this, life attracts to us whatever we Feel or Think about the most. This law of attraction is always at work and is responding right now to what thoughts you are thinking and the feelings you are sending out, both consciously and unconsciously.
Therefore, you simply get more of what ever you are thinking and feeling about the most. It is just like a photocopier, life simply reflects back to you a copy of your most dominant thoughts and feelings. By default, as human beings, we tend to focus on the ‘ shortage’ of something in our lives or the ‘ lack of something’. This could be the lack of money, lack of time, lack of a great career or even lack of a great relationship. It could also be our lack of confidence, self esteem or good feelings! However, when we do this, we just attract more and more lack of what we want. Many of us have been doing this for years which is why we just keep creating more of what we don’t want. ( instead of getting more and more of what we do want!)
Many Personal development experts talk about changing our dominant thinking patterns of lack by using affirmations such as ‘I am wealthy’ or ‘I am in the relationship I desire’. For many of us, affirmations (those of you who are familiar with my work will understand that I call this taking a motor boat down your stream) are too much of a jump. As a result, even stating an affirmation can feel unbelievable or too much of a stretch. As a result we often just give up, believing that the law of attraction just doesn’t work!
However, there is a short cut and an easier way to get what you want by using methods I have learned from Abraham Hicks. This short cut is to just lean down your stream not jump – remember, you are in a canoe, not a speedboat. In doing this, you are bridging the gap from where you are now, to where you want to be (e.g. From a lack of money, to allowing abundance in your life.)
To do this, you need to change your focus from lack to allowing. You can do this by releasing the focus or resistance in your vibration. It’s not about finding an affirmation that states clearly what you want – it is about finding a better feeling statement that causes you to feel slightly better or more ease about whatever topic you are struggling with. It is about reaching for a thought which soothes your resistance or encouraging yourself into a better feeling place. This does take a little focus but the focus feels good – and surely we all want to feel good!
Everyone is different so this will be different for everyone. In my Life Coaching sessions, this is often what I cover in the first Life Coaching session. However, here are a few ideas which may help. The idea is to focus and feel yourself into a better feeling place by looking forward to receiving what you want, not what you don’t want.
1) Affirm ‘I am really looking forward to feeling better about my financial situation’
2) Affirm ‘Wouldn’t it be nice if I found a new career’
3) ‘I know I have been struggling with this issue for a long time, but it’s only temporary. Everything passes. I have changed in the past and I can do it again’
For more exercises and methods to help you create what you desire, please see the website of Northamptonshire based Life Coach Lisa Phillips, Personal Confidence and Life Coach at www.amazingcoaching.co.uk Lisa is also the author of ‘ The Confidence Coach’ and works with clients on Skype all over the world. For testimonials, please see here.