Do you struggle with assertiveness? Do you run a mile at the first sign of conflict? In this blog, I will share with you some simple assertiveness phrases you can use in those awkward moments!

What is Assertiveness?

Assertiveness is an empowered communication style that allows you to clearly and confidently state how you want people to treat you! It also assists you in honouring your own needs and standing up for what is important to you . Being assertive also allows you to act in your own best interests ( instead of someone’s else’s best interests) and express your rights as a human being. It is also a sign of self respect and self care.

Assertive behaviour is a skill that can be used with friends, work colleagues, partners and even ccomplete strangers.  It tells the world that you care about how you feel.

Assertiveness Phrases

Having a few assertiveness phrases up your sleeve can be useful if you find yourself regularly saying Yes to other peoples requests when you really want to say No! We all do it, as often we think that if we say No other people they may disapprove of us or we will feel like we will cause unwanted conflict. Many of us struggle to be assertive so a few Assertive phrases are useful to practice so that you can use them in those common people pleasing moments!

Try a few of these assertive phrases

  1. Thank you for the offer, but that doesn’t interest me right now
  2. Thanks for asking but I can’t help
  3. I would like to help but I can’t today
  4. Thanks but that isn’t a priority for me at the moment
  5. Thanks, but I have other plans
  6. That doesn’t work for me
  7. I will pass on this one
  8. I will think about it and get back to you
  9. I am not sure how I feel about that.  I will take some time to think about it and get back to you when I am ready
  10. Thanks for thinking of me, but I can’t make it

If you would like to give up the disease to please and become a more assertive and confident person, why not contact Northamptonshire Life Coach Lisa Phillips? Lisa provides face to face coaching around the Northamptonshire, Leicestershire, Rutland, Peterborough and Cambridgeshire areas. She also works with people all over the world via Skype.

Life Coach Lisa Phillips

Previously based in Sydney, Australia, Life Coach Lisa Phillips has more than 19 years experience as a Life Coach and Confidence Expert. Lisa is the author of ‘ The Confidence Coach’ and her work appears extensively in the media. For Lisa’s Life Coaching site, please see www.amazingcoaching.co.uk. To have Lisa speak at your event, please see www.howtoempoweryourstaff.co.uk.

Northamptonshire based award winning confidence coach