In today’s Amazing Coaching newsletter, I will share with you 7 Tips for Building Confidence. These confidence tips will work for anyone, regardless of age or background. Please don’t struggle or force yourself to do these tips. Start by choosing a tip that feels good to you and gently encourage yourself. There is no need to push yourself out of your comfort zone I promise!
7 steps to Building Confidence
1) Focus on learning to Like yourself.
Liking yourself is not Selfish or arrogant. The truth is, most of us like other people more than we like ourselves! One of the greatest tips to building confidence is to spend a little more time being your own best friend and learning to like yourself a bit more.
2) Stop Pleasing other people before yourself.
Instead of living your life pleasing other people, start to please yourself. Look at why the approval from other people is so important to you. What are you afraid of? What terrible thing do you think will happen if you stop pleasing other people? Are you scared that they won’t like you? Start putting yourself first and approve of yourself, rather than looking for other people to approve you.
3) Don’t hang out with people who drain your energy.
Care enough about how you feel to only hang out with people who make you feel good. Distance yourself from negative people and the energy vampires.
4) Quit beating yourself up.
Quit being so hard and critical on yourself. Be your own best friend and give yourself some well deserved compassion. Soothe yourself when you are fearful or sad and give yourself a break.
5) Learn to Praise Yourself.
When is the last time you gave yourself some well deserved praise? Most of us find it easy to say something negative about ourselves but rarely do we take the time to say something nice or praise ourselves. Every day, aim to say at least 1 nice thing about yourself.
6) Stop worrying what people think.
This give you real freedom! Why is it so important for people to like you? Does it really mater that much if they don’t? Learn to like yourself first rather than worrying about what people think of you. Most of the time they are not thinking about you anyway!
7) Let go of feeling guilty.
Guilt is really toxic to your body and lets face it, it doesn’t do any good at all! Rather than obsessing over what you should have done, be proactive. Make amends if you need to but also forgive yourself and lift the weight from your own shoulders. Also, don’t allow other people to dump guilt trips on you; you don’t need to take it on!
Remind yourself that you’re only human.
You are a human being so remind yourself that it is perfectly normal to have good days and bad days. Give yourself a break and recognise that it’s not possible to be perfect all the time! Learn to laugh at yourself when things don’t go according to plan and lighten up.
Life Coaching with Award Winning Confidence Expert Lisa Phillips
Northamptonshire Life Coach and Confidence Expert Lisa Phillips, is the author of The Confidence Coach Book.
Lisa works with face to face clients in the local area and also offers online Life coaching and online Life Coaching courses. With 20 years experience, her leading edge techniques and proven results are regularly featured in on TV, Radio and national Press. For more information, please see her media page.
She is also a very popular workshop facilitator and guest speaker.