Several years ago, I attended a training course in New York with Life Coach Debbie Ford.   During this course, Debbie spoke extensively about letting go  of all the Should do’s in our life!  I love this principle and often use it in my own life and also with my own coaching clients.

Think about it, where are you always saying ‘I should do this or I should do that‘  Wouldn’t it just feel so much nicer to let all the should do’s go?

Here are some Should do’s you could live without!

I should be the perfect lover, partner, worker, friend, parents, teacher, student, child etc
I should be able to endure without complaint
I should never lose my temper
I should never make mistakes
I should never be afraid
I should never be angry / jealous
I should be totally self reliant
I should not ask for help
I should be able to find a quick solution to every problem
I should be able to protect my family from pain
I should make enough money so that I / my family can afford….
I should be a success in everything I do
I should also have a tidy house
I should be busy; otherwise I am wasting my time
I should have the energy to do all of the things I must do
I should always look my best
I should put other people’s feelings before mine
I should strive to be perfect at all times
I should feel happy
I should feel guilty

International Award Winning Life Coach

Northamptonshire based International  Award Winning Life Coach Lisa Phillips is the author of The Confidence Coach.   Lisa is a highly popular Confidence and Self esteem expert, wellness and motivational speaker and workshop facilitator.  Her work is regulary featured in the media.

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