Feel Negative? It is all about Focus

Feel Negative? It is all about Focus

Feel Negative 

A blog by award winning Confidence Coach and Motivational Speaker, Lisa Phillips.

We are human beings and it is natural to feel negative from time to time . However, it is fair to say that on occasion, many of us often struggle to feel positive in any area of our lives!. 

Many of you will know that I recently re-located from Australia to Northamptonshire, UK.  I was born in Northants and it is great to be back.  To coincide with my move back to the UK, I also recently launched a new workshop titled ‘How to be a more positive and confident person’. This is a brand new workshop and I recently spoke on this very topic for Celebrity Cruise Line with very positive results!

Before I continue,   I would like to point out that even if you are a ‘glass half empty’ type of person who may often feel negative, this should never be a reason to beat yourself up or be critical towards yourself. To be perfectly honest, the reason I teach this subject is to help people feel good and feel more positive – even if they do feel negative.

Dominant Negativity comes from deep within us and it is often an old habit or  learned thinking pattern based on old negative beliefs we formed in our childhood years such as:

  • Nothing goes right for me
  • Too good to be true 
  • Things are never easy 
  • It won’t work out to my advantage
  • Something always goes wrong
  • It’s not easy being me…..

These old beliefs lead to negative thoughts and then lead to negative expectations of life in general.   

You see, negative experiences are often the outcome of :

  • Poor expectations of life, success, joy, happiness
  • Expecting things to go wrong 
  • Expecting life to be a struggle or difficult 
  • Expecting things to not go well 

Unfortunately, life then becomes a self fulfilling prophecy as negative beliefs, lead to negative thoughts, lead to negative expectations and then finally negative outcomes! It is when we keep experiencing the negative outcomes that we get to exclaim even more that ‘Things never go right for me’ and ‘there is no point changing things’

 However, getting to be right and expecting negative outcomes robs us of our joy and wellbeing! It also doesn’t feel good and prevents us from moving forward and becoming confident and empowered.  We just get stuck repeating the same outdated negative patterns. ( and complaining about them!)

The good news is that if you do want to become a more positive person,  I have now launched a new range of online training sessions which will be able to assist you so please  check out www.amazingcoaching.co.uk for more details.  There is a wide range of courses which include building up confidence, building resilience and my very favourite, how to be your own best friend. 

Lisa Phillips is a UK Life and Confidence Coach and Motivational Speaker based in Northamptonshire. She is also author of ‘The Confidence Coach’ book.   For more information, please see www.amazingcoaching.co.uk or contact Lisa at [email protected]   For more information or to book Lisa to speak at your event or conference, please check out her speaker website at www.howtoempoweryourstaff.co.uk.

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