In 22 years working as a  Life Coach, I have discovered that nothing interferes with healthy relationships more than low confidence, poor self esteem and feeling needy.

If you are always looking for a relationship to make you feel loved, loveable, worthy, attractive or special. feeling needy in relationships will cause you to feel let down, frustrated and even more alone.

When we feel needy, It is often our inner child asking for love and attention.   It is a signal to focus your energy on healing yourself, rather than trying to get your partner to  behave in a way that makes you feel good.

The reality is, you must respect yourself enough to insist on healthy relationships. 

Your relationship with yourself is key.

If  you don’t see yourself as a valuable and worthy human being,  then you may end up  feeling needy in relationships.

As a result, you will be constantly be on the lookout for any sign, signal or word that gives you some assurance that your relationship is going to be ok.

Feeling Needy in Relationships

Traits such as neediness are often associated believing you are not good enough, not worthy enough or loveable enough.  Feeling Needy is also associated with a shortage of love, trust and a fear of rejection or abandonment.

Wounded Beliefs

These wounded beliefs are often left dormant in our minds and body until somebody comes along and triggers them.  At this point, these beliefs take on a life of their own, rising to the surface and causing us upset and anxiety.

When these wounds are triggered, we will often try as hard as we can to push them down or find something to cover them up, which gives us a feeling of relief for a short time. Therefore, whenever you find yourself feeling needy in a relationship, you are simply searching for a band aid to cover up your old wounds.

Searching for Approval in Relationships

Needy people are often searching for approval and attention from other people.

While in relationships, they are on the lookout for their partners words and actions to soothe their stressful feelings. However, when this doesn’t happen, they can easily become hurt, unreasonable and jealous.

If you find yourself becoming needy in relationships, then it may be time to clear some of your old negative beliefs and see yourself as the worthy, loveable and magnificent catch you really are!   Inner Child coaching is extremely effective in healing neediness in relationships.

Award Winning Professional Life Coaching

Based in Corby,  Northamptonshire area, Lisa Phillips provides Life Coaching, Confidence Coaching and inner child  Coaching.  She has over 22 years experience as an award winning international  Life Coach. Lisa has also  trained as an NLP Master Coach and counsellor.

While based in Australia,  Lisa wrote the book the  ‘The Confidence Coach’ .  She is also the Confidence expert on The Love Destination TV.

Read Lisa’s Life Coaching testimonials!