A blog by Award Winning Northamptonshire  Life and Confidence Coach Lisa Phillips

If you are a fan of self development, you will have heard people talk about the need to focus on what you want, not what you don’t want!

However, due to our negative beliefs, old programming and dominant negative emotions,  this can be tricky to actually put into practice.

We often attract what we don’t want.

Every time we  try hard or put effort into trying to NOT focus  on what we want, we can end up attracting more of what we don’t want!

For example: If you are struggling for money, you need to focus on the vibration of receiving more money, rather than getting frustrated about the lack of money in your life. And here lies a common problem as it can be difficult to focus on receiving more money when you are struggling to pay the bills or your debts are mounting up.

Focus on the Wanted

A far more successful and easier way of focussing on what you do want is to gradually and generally, tune your vibration away from the unwanted – into the wanted. This isn’t about taking big huge leaps – it’s about a general movement of your thoughts, on a gradual basis day by day in the direction of your desire. It is about encouraging and soothing yourself into a better feeling place day by day.

Here is an example of moving your focus on what you want:

‘I know I am struggling for cash right now and it doesn’t feel too good. However, I would like to start to think that it is possible that this will get better for me. I know I feel good when I have money, and would like to feel that again. I don’t have to work this out right now, but it’s good to know that I am flowing in the right direction towards the extra money I desire.’

Reaching for better feeling soothing thoughts will actually start you moving towards what you want and give you some relief from the thoughts that you don’t want. If you have a strong vibration of ‘I don’t have any money’ then you might find that it takes a little longer.

Be gentle about this though – reach for a ‘better feeling thought’ each morning and allow the momentum of the stream to carry you in the direction of your desires. It takes patience, but not force!

Northamptonshire Life Coaching

Lisa Phillips is an award winning Life Coach, Confidence Coach and Career Coach based in Northamptonshire.  Lisa has over 20 years experience and is also the author of  ‘The Confidence Coach Book’    She is currently the Life Coaching expert on The Love Destination TV. 

Why not contact Lisa today for a no obligation chat to see how she can assist you?   Although Lisa is based in Northamptonshire,  she provides online coaching to clients based in London, Manchester, Australia, USA and all over the globe.

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