How to become a More Resilient Person

How to become a More Resilient Person

How to Become  More Resilient

Speaking and coaching on the topic of how to become more resilient is one of my favourite things to do! I am always delighted when I am engaged  to run a workshop for an organisation or speak at a company wellbeing event on the topic of Building Resilience for employees or how to become a more resilient person. 

Learning how to become more resilient  impacts everyone. It doesn’t matter whether you are a stay at home mum, an aged care worker or a Chief Executive,  a strong feeling of resilience inside of you, will result in your life feeling much and far less stressful!

Most of us have just got used to living our lives riding around on the emotional roller coaster. As a result, we don’t find that  inner ‘steadiness‘ that keeps us grounded deep inside of us.  We end up at the  mercy of our emotions which can frequently shift from positive to negative, depending on  who we are hanging out, circumstances around us  or even what we read in the media. Therefore, It can just take a small hurtful remark or a small change in plansto have us knocked around like a feather both mentally and emotionally.

A lack of resilience can leave also leave us feeling anxious, fearful and upset and an inability to bounce back from life’s unexpected twists and turns.

Real resilience and becoming more resilient is about feeling that inner steadiness of a rock inside of you – standing firm in the knowledge that when things go wrong or change is happening, that it is not the end of the world. It is the ability to look forward and not get too upset or deflated when things don’t go according to plan.

Your body also feels much happier when you become more resilient as you feel a sense of safety and a knowing that you are going to be ok.  

Here are a few Common Traits of Resilient People:

1) Trusting that things will work out ok for them in the end

2)  Seeing change as a natural part of life and being flexible when change hits.

3)  Caring enough about how they feel so they don’t allow themselves to keep focussed on what ‘ should have happened’

4)  Choosing to soothe themselves in times of stress

5)  Caring about how they feel so they would prefer to focus on the outcome that they desire, rather than the current reality of the situation.

Here are a few of my top tips for becoming more resilient :

  •  Choose Kindness towards  yourself – resilience is often about the fear of not being able to cope or the fear of change.
  • Soothe and encourage your inner child reminding them that they will be ok and they are safe.
  • Repeat the following affirmation ‘Even though it doesn’t feel like it, everything is working out for me’.
  • Question your thought patterns – are you mind reading or assuming that you won’t be able to cope?
  • Ask yourself – What’s the worst that could really happen?

 If you would like to become more resilient an cope easily with life’s ups and downs, why not check out Lisa’s range of online training modules on topics such as resilience, career confidence, inner confidence and how to be your own best friend.  For more information, please see

Lisa Phillips is an UK Professional Speaker on topics such as Resilence, Confidence and Employee Wellbeing.  She is the author of ‘ The Confidence Coach’ and an award winning Life and Confidence Coach.  Currently based in Northamptonshire UK,  Lisa Phillips works with clients all over the world.   To find out more, please see or

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