Identifying Your Relationship Needs
Have you ever stopped and thought about your Relationship needs? I mean the things which are important for you to receive and feel in your relationships? Relationship needs are important for us to stay healthy and empowered in relationships.
If we don’t identify and then honour your needs, we will often find that we ‘ give away ourselves‘ in relationships and end up focusing more on other peoples needs than our own relationship needs. Then we feel resentful, unloved and unappreciated. Honouring our own needs leads to self respect, self care and good boundaries.
What are some of the basic relationship needs?
Everyone is different but there are some basic relationship needs which I have highlighted below:
- Mutual reciprocal love
- No ambiguity
- The right to a relationship where you feel love and it meets your needs and expectations
- Feeling wanted, secure and respected
- Safe and secure in love
- Treated with love, kindness, respect and trust
- To give and receive attention
- Listen and be heard
- Honesty, loyalty, consistency
- To feel like you matter
- To disagree without being punished
- To not have feelings discounted or undermined
- Emotional support and Validation
- Share feelings that are important
- Love and connection, attachment, approval
- Companion ship, belonging
- Fairness and equality
- To feel seen
Protecting your Relationship Needs
Attending to ( and protecting) your own relationship needs leads you to healthy authentic relationships. Having needs is not selfish, weak, or dependent. You have the right to take care of your own needs and importantly, not push them to the side.
So today, take some time to identify your own relationship needs. Ask yourself,
What are my needs? What are my personal prerequisites for happiness?
Do you need more understanding, support or fun? More or Less time together? Less stress? More honesty?
Once you’ve started discovering what your needs are, check in with yourself often. Are your needs being met right now? If not, how can you make that happen?
Northants Life Coach, Lisa Phillips
Media Personality, wellness speaker and Confidence Expert Lisa Phillips is based in Corby, Northants. Lisa works with people all over the world providing Zoom / Skype Life Coaching sessions and Online courses. Her work is regularly featured n the media.
Lisa Phillips has over 20 years experience assisting people to feel good, increase their self esteem and grow their confidence. She is also a qualified Counsellor and NLP Master practitioner.
Her book, ‘ The Confidence Coach’ was published in 2015 while Lisa was based in Sydney, Australia.