Identifying Your Relationship Needs

Have you ever stopped and thought about your Relationship needs?  I mean the things which are important for you to receive and feel  in your relationships?   Relationship needs  are important for us to stay healthy and empowered in relationships.

If we don’t identify and then honour your  needs, we will often find that we ‘ give away ourselves‘ in relationships and end up focusing more on other peoples needs than our own relationship needs.  Then we feel resentful, unloved and unappreciated.   Honouring our own needs leads to self respect, self care and good boundaries.

What are some of the basic relationship needs?

Everyone is different but there are some basic relationship needs which I have highlighted below:

  1. Mutual reciprocal love
  2. No ambiguity
  3. The right to a relationship where you feel love and it meets your needs and expectations
  4. Feeling wanted, secure and respected
  5. Safe and secure in love
  6. Treated with love, kindness, respect and trust
  7. To give and receive attention
  8. Affection
  9. Listen and be heard
  10. Intimacy
  11. Honesty, loyalty, consistency
  12. To feel like you matter
  13. To disagree without being punished
  14. To not have feelings discounted or undermined
  15. Emotional support and Validation
  16. Share feelings that are important
  17. Love and connection, attachment, approval
  18. Companion ship, belonging
  19. Fairness and equality
  20. To feel seen

Protecting your Relationship Needs

Attending to ( and protecting)  your own relationship needs leads you to healthy authentic relationships.   Having needs is not selfish, weak, or dependent.  You have the right to take care of your own needs and importantly, not push them to the side.

So today, take some time to identify your own relationship needs.  Ask yourself,

What are my needs? What are my personal prerequisites for happiness?

Do you need more understanding, support or  fun? More or Less time together?  Less stress? More honesty?

Once you’ve started discovering what your needs are, check in with yourself often. Are your needs being met right now? If not, how can you make that happen?

Northants Life Coach,  Lisa Phillips

Media Personality, wellness speaker and  Confidence Expert Lisa Phillips is based in Corby, Northants.     Lisa works with people all over the world providing Zoom / Skype Life Coaching sessions and Online courses.  Her work is regularly featured n the media. 

Lisa Phillips has over 20 years experience assisting people to feel good, increase their self esteem and grow their confidence.  She is also a qualified Counsellor and NLP Master practitioner.

Her book,  ‘ The Confidence Coach’ was published in 2015 while Lisa was based in Sydney, Australia.

Contact Lisa today to find out more about how she can help you or check out her range of online courses.