We are human beings and it is natural to feel negative emotions from time to time . However, how much of your life do you have a ‘ Glass Half Empty‘ attitude?
I think it is fair to say that on occasion, many of us often struggle to find any positive in life or everyday situations.
Northamptonshire Life Coaching
Many of you will know that I recently re-located from Australia to Northampton shire, UK. To coincide with my move back to the UK, I also recently launched a new workshop titled ‘How to be a more positive person’. This is a brand new workshop and when recently engaged as a Motivational speaker for Celebrity Cruise Line, I rolled out this workshop and gained some wonderful feedback from attendees.
Never Beat Yourself Up!
Before I continue, However, I would like to point out that even if you are a ‘glass half empty’ type of person, this should never be a reason to beat yourself up or be critical towards yourself. To be perfectly honest, the reason I teach this subject is to help people feel good – even if they are feeling negative!
Dominant Negativity comes from within us and it is often an old habit or learned thinking pattern based on old negative beliefs such as:
• Nothing goes right for me
• Too good to be true
• Things are never easy
• It won’t work out to my advantage
• Something always goes wrong
• It’s not easy being me…..
These old beliefs lead to negative thoughts and then lead to negative expectations of life in general. Often those people who are habitually negative may have experienced many hurtful or negative experiences in their life.
You see, negative experiences are often the outcome of :
• Poor expectations of life, success, joy, happiness
• A dominant belief that things to go wrong
• An expectation that life is not easy and it will be a struggle or just difficult!
• Expecting things to not go well
Unfortunately, life then becomes a self fulfilling prophecy as negative beliefs, lead to negative thoughts, lead to negative expectations and then finally negative outcomes!
It is when we keep experiencing the negative outcomes that we get to exclaim even more that ‘Things never go right for me’ and ‘there is no point changing things‘
However, getting to be right and expecting negative outcomes robs us of our joy and wellbeing! It also doesn’t feel good and prevents us from moving forward and becoming confident and empowered. We just get stuck repeating the same mouldy negative patterns. ( and complaining about them!)
Lisa Phillips, Award Winning Northamptonshire Life Coach
Currently based in Northamptonshire, Lisa Phillips has over 20 years experience. She has also won several international awards for her work assisting people to feel more confident and authentic. Please read more information about Life Coaching and Confidence Coaching
Lisa is a UK Life and Confidence Coach and Guest Speaker based in Northamptonshire. She is also author of ‘The Confidence Coach’ book. For more information, please Lisa’s speaker site at www.howtoempoweryourstaff.co.uk or for Coaching information, please see www.amazingcoaching.co.uk .