When was the last time you took a minute to say nice things about yourself? Think carefully, When was the last time you praised yourself? Did you finish work today and give yourself a pat on the back or did you praise yourself for picking the kids up from school on time?
If you are like most of us – I very much doubt it!
Many of us where not taught the importance of being able to say nice things about yourself. We think it is selfish. In addition, we rarely give ourselves a pat on the back or acknowledge ourselves for something we have done.
Saying Nice Things about Yourself Boosts Confidence and Self Esteem
Most of us criticise ourselves unconsciously all day. These patterns are so engrained that we don’t even realise we are doing it. However, did you know that every time you criticise yourself you are eating away and your self esteem and confidence? However, if you begin to be a little more kinder to yourself, by saying a few nice things and also learning to praise yourself more regularly, this will really boost your confidence muscle and self esteem?
We often Feel Uncomfortable
If you have ever attended one of my conferences where I was guest speaker, you may have been asked to turn to the person next to you and say something nice about yourself. I love asking my audience to do this simple exercise. Some people enjoy it, but most find it really awkward and uncomfortable. The truth is that if I had asked my audience to say something to the person next to them that they DON’T like about themselves, I probably couldn’t shut them up!
Try these Tips to say Nice Things to Yourself
- Get yourself a nice notebook and every evening or morning, write down something you like about yourself. Don’t worry if it feels awkward at first, it will get easier as you learn to allow and accept these kind words about yourself.
- At the end of everyday, praise yourself! You can praise yourself for anything. This includes making the bed, eating breakfast or going to work. Don’t wait until you have run a marathon to praise yourself!
- Every week, read through your words. Don’t just do this in your heart, try and feel the words in your heart.
- Write a list of 10 things that make you happy and commit to doing at least one thing a day. Your Happiness preferences are important.
Professional Life Coaching
Northants based award winning confidence coach and Life Coach Lisa Phillips has over twenty years experience. She is also the author of The Confidence Coach Book. Her expertise as a Professional Life Coach and Confidence expert appears regularly in the media.
Lisa is also the currently Life Coaching expert on The Love Destination TV.