Back in 2007, I attended two, week long “Shadow Belief” workshops. These were held in the world renowned Omega Institute in New York and also in San Diego. Both were facilitated by Debbie Ford.
I have continued to use the work of my shadow in my Life Coaching sessions. This is deep transformational work founded by Carl Jung. Shadow beliefs are unconscious belies that influences our entire lives, tells us what we can and can not do, and drives our behaviours.
What is our Shadow?
Our shadow is made up of all the parts of ourselves that we hide, deny, suppress, and don’t see in ourselves – both the positive and the negative. It is made up of all the aspects of ourselves that we reject out of shame, fear or disapproval. Shadow beliefs are the parts of us that we believe are unacceptable, will be met with disapproval by others, or that annoys, horrifies or disgusts us about other people or about ourselves.
We often choose to run away or ‘ hide’ our shadow and it can often cause us to self sabotage our dreams.
However, our shadow is really our friend, inviting us all to tell ourselves the real truth and come out of denial. Owning and discovering our shadow is one of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves.
C. Jung said, “Our shadow is the person we would rather not be.”
Shadow Belief Examples:
- There is something wrong with me.
- I cannot trust anyone.
- I don’t deserve to have what I want.
- Love does not last.
- I am worthless.
- I am never going to be successful.
- Other people are better than me
- I am ugly
Owning our Shadow Beliefs
In order to own our entire greatness, we need to make peace with all our beliefs – not just the good ones. We must allow ourselves to feel the parts of us we believe are unacceptable. We needs to love all our parts, not just the ones we believe are good or acceptable.
Identifying your Shadow Beliefs
You can try this little exercise below to identify your own Shadow beliefs:
What three things you love most about yourself?
For example – Generous, kind, clever , helpful etc
Now take these 3 beliefs and look at the opposite of them. For example – Mean, nasty, selfish, unkind
This is YOUR SHADOW. You are saying ‘ I am not that!’
Lisa Phillips, Life Coach Corby
With over 22 years experience, Lisa Phillips is an award winning Life Coach. She is also the author of ‘ The Confidence Coach‘ book. If you would like Lisa to help you with your own shadow beliefs, why not contact her for more information.