If you have been on the receiving end of hearing some yucky things about yourself, e.g. that you are worthless, not good enough or not confident enough etc, the chances are these are lies that you still believe about yourself. These are your negative beliefs and old outdating programming.
Most of the time we are not even conscious of what our negative beliefs are. Many of them are formed during childhood. T hey are actually passed down from generation to generation. However, they become our programming for life, they become the lies that you believe about yourself.
Negative Beliefs lead to Negative Self Talk
Our negative beliefs, lead to our negative self talk. These beliefs actually hold a ‘ vibration’ – a low frequency. So without realising it, if you believe you are worthless, you are unconsciously sending out this signal to the world. This signal then gets ‘ copied’. The copy will be in the form of an assortment of people or circumstances which will simply copy (or reflect back to you) your overall feelings of being worthless.
I am not Important
If you believe you are not important, you will also continue to attract people into your life who support and ‘ copy’ the belief that you are not important.
Take a few minutes to think about the reoccurring issues in your life? What unwanted experiences do you keep repeating over and over again? Do you keep attracting unhealthy relationships, unavailable partners, bullying bosses or a shortage of money? If so, then this is just your photo copier at play, reflecting back to you your negative beliefs about love, relationships, money and also how you expect people to treat you.
70% of the world’s population is held hostage by the negative belief that they are unlovable. They may convince themselves as an adult that this belief is not true. Unless the belief is healed from childhood, it will continue to be copied as deep down, you still believe this lie about yourself. Feeding this little treasure into the photocopier will almost guarantee that you attract situations and people in your life who act out in ‘unloving’ ways towards you.
If this wasn’t bad enough, experiencing all this unloving stuff will simply attach even more legs to the belief that you are 100%, UNLOVEABLE.
Self Fulfilling Prophecy
One of my Life Coaching clients, Helen, got trapped on the self-fulfilling unlovable merry go round. As a child, she was informed that she wasn’t good enough and she often felt deprived of love and a good old bedtime story.
As an adult, her partner often planted the seed in her mind what a rotten person she was and how ‘lucky’ she was to have him. As a result of this, she stayed firmly rooted in a toxic marriage for over twenty years as she was wholeheartedly convinced that no other man would even contemplate buying her dinner, never mind falling in love with her. The negative belief of being ‘ unlovable’ just kept being copied in her life over and over again. No wonder Helen could not just leave her partner, she was running on her old programming.
Remember this little gem… Whatever you Believe… you will Receive!
Thoughts, Beliefs and Feelings
If you really want to see changes appearing in your life, you need to start look at what thoughts, feelings and negative beliefs are feeding into your photocopier. You need to do a clear out of the lies that you believe about yourself. The good news is that with my help, you can easily change this
It has been said that the ‘ definition of insanity is doing the same thing every day and expecting a different result’ so if you are experiencing the same repetitive problems in your life, then it is time to change what is going into your photocopier of life.
This is where my work as a Life Coach comes in. I can help you identify and heal your negative beliefs in only a few sessions. Now image how different your life will be when you feed into your life photocopier POSTIVE BELIEFS such as I am Important, I am loveable and I deserve the best!
Northants based Life Coach
Based in Corby, Northants, Lisa Phillips has over 22 years experience as an award winning Life Coach and Confidence expert. She is the author of ‘ The Confidence Coach’ book and her work is regular featured n the media . Contact Lisa today for a no-obligation chat.