What would it feel like to have real inner confidence?
Many of us are under the impression that real inner confidence is about being an extrovert or the life and soul of the party.
We view a confident person as one who always seems comfortable being assertive or speaking their truth.
Your Inner Confidence Preferences
The truth is that real inner confidence is finding and honouring your own personal confidence preferences. It is also recognising that confidence means different things to different people.
Granted, for some people it is about being a confident public speaker or for others it is about being having the confidence to ask a friend to repay the cash they owe you!
Learning to say NO.
For many of us, real inner confidence is about learning to say no to other people’s requests.
Real inner confidence may also be about backing yourself when you feel fearful and, encouraging yourself to honour your own important needs. Authentic confidence is about being ok with yourself when you need to down requests to do things and not feeling guilty about it either!
Confidence comes from the Inside Out.
Real authentic confidence comes from the inside out. It is not about being aggressive or a bully. Inner confidence is having a belief in your own abilities and a trust in yourself. It is knowing deep down that you are an ‘OK’ person and the right to be yourself – even if other people don’t approve!
When I am asked to be a Guest speaker I liken real confidence to being like a rock inside of you. That rock remains steady, grounded and stable regardless of the situation you are faced with.
You have to care more about how you Feel
A huge part of being a confident person is caring enough about your own wellbeing and emotions. When you care about feeling good, you will make better choices and decisions. This will then boost your inner confidence.
It really doesn’t matter how long someone may have been struggling with confidence. Everyone of us can learn to build up a strong confidence muscle.
Real inner confidence is about encouraging and soothing your fears. It is not about pushing yourself out of your comfort zone. It is about owning your power and tuning into your own confidence preferences.
Northamptonshire Life Coaching
With over 22 years’ experience, Lisa Phillips is an award winning Life Coach and Confidence Coach. Currently based in Northamptonshire, UK. Lisa has over 22 years experience as a award winning Life Coach.
When Lisa isn’t coaching, she is engaged by several international cruise lines as a guest speaker.
Why not contact Lisa Phillips today for a no-obligation chat about how she can support you?