What is Inner Confidence?

What would really feeling like a Confident Person mean to you?

Many of us are under the impression that real inner confidence is about being an extrovert, the life and soul of the party.  Or we view a confident person as one who always seems comfortable being assertive, regardless of the circumstances.

Your Inner Confidence Preferences

However,  real inner confidence is finding and honouring your own personal confidence preferences.  It is important to know that Confidence really can mean different things to different people.   Granted, for some people it is about being a confident public speaker or for others it is about being confident to speak up in meetings. 

However, for many of us, real inner confidence is about learning to say no to other people’s requests (such as the boss asking you to work late). It is also about  backing yourself when you feel fearful and, encouraging yourself to honour your own important needs.   Real authentic confidence is about being ok with yourself when you need to down requests to do things and not feeling guilty about it either!

Confidence comes from the Inside Out.

The fact is that real confidence comes from the inside out. It is not about being aggressive or a bully. Inner confidence is having a belief in your own abilities and a trust in yourself.  It is knowing deep down that you are an ‘OK’ person and the right to be yourself – even if other people don’t approve!

When I am Guest speaking at wellness conference or events, I liken real confidence to being like a rock inside of you. That rock remains steady, grounded and stable regardless of the situation you are faced with.

You have to care more about how you Feel

A huge part of being a confident person is caring enough about your own wellbeing and emotions. When you really care about feeling good, you will make better choices and decisions which in turn, will boost your inner confidence.

The good news is that it doesn’t matter how long someone may have been struggling with confidence, each and every one of us can learn to build up a strong confidence muscle. Authentic Confidence is about encouraging and soothing your fears, than pushing yourself out of your comfort zone.  It is about owning your power and tuning into your own confidence preferences rather than following societies expectations of what makes a confident person.

Northamptonshire Life Coaching

With over 20 years’ experience, Lisa Phillips is a Life Coach and Confidence Coach currently based in Northamptonshire, UK.

She is also the author of ‘ The Confidence Coach’ (Exile Publishing),  She is currently the Confidence Coaching expert on The Love Destination TV.   and a popular motivational and wellness Speaker and Trainer.  For more information, please see www.amazingcoaching.co.uk or www.howtoempoweryourstaff.co.uk