Is feeling ‘ just ok’ your dominant emotion? Or is your life filled with your unique happiness preferences, joy and excitement? Be honest with yourself – Does your life feel really good to you? Like many of us, probably not!
Maybe your grab a few minutes of feeling fabulous occasionally but is your life more on auto pilot and you just got used to feeling negative emotions on a daily basis or putting up with stuff that doesn’t feel good to you?
You are not alone in this. When coaching my Northants Life Coaching clients or UK Confidence Coaching clients, it becomes obvious to me, that many of us see real joy and happiness as an occasional thing, rather than a state of ‘normality’.
Many of us have just got used to Feeling Negative.
It is a rare few that insist on a regular flow of wellbeing for ourselves. Most of us just accept mediocre feelings, accept mediocre relationships and put up with feeling bad rather than insisting that our lives should feel consistently good.
When speaking at large conferences or as a guest speaker on cruise ships, I often ask my audiences how much they really care about their own wellbeing? I don’t just mean getting the occasional massage or getting an early night when you have time, I mean every moment of the day making it a key priority to FEEL GOOD.
Take a few seconds to reflect on your own life – Is your job fulfilling you? What poor or unfulfilling relationships are you putting up with? Are you constantly beating yourself up with negative chatter or making everyone else a priority rather than yourself? If so, the chances are that your own personal wellbeing is not that important to you.
Life is Supposed to Feel Good to You!
Wellbeing really is our natural state of living but many of us have just got used to feeling bad that we have forgotten that we are supposed to feel good Unfortunately, the more and more we tolerate negative emotions, suppress our own personal preferences and pinch ourselves off from wellbeing, the more momentum will build and this will become our dominant emotion. As a result, we are more likely to experience feelings such as are to depression or anxiety.
If you really cared about your own wellbeing – how would you change in your life? Would you be kinder to yourself and be your own best friend rather than enemy? Would you encourage yourself and soothe yourself rather than beat yourself up? Would you see yourself through eyes of compassion? What activities would you do more of or less of if you really cared about how you feel? Would you speak up for yourself more or become more assertive? Think about it, if you really cared about your own wellbeing, what would you do for yourself? What would you change?
Lisa Phillips is an award winning UK Life Coach and Confidence Coach based in Northamptonshire. She has over 20 years experience and has won several awards for her work as a Life Coach and Confidence Expert. Lisa is a popular UK Professional speaker and is the author of ‘The Confidence Coach’ book. For more information, please see www.amazingcoaching.co.uk or contact Lisa at [email protected]