In my work as a TV Confidence Expert, Life Coach and Cruise Ship speaker,  I often refer to what I personally call, your ‘Personal Stream of Happiness’.

If you are familiar with my work, you will know I often refer to’ Life as being like a canoe on a flowing stream’.   You alone are responsible for what direction you take your canoe each day.  It is your personal stream of happiness.

You can decide to take your canoe ( or life!) upstream, which is a bit of a struggle,  downstream, which feels ‘ in the flow’ and fun, or you can simply choose to do nothing and don’t move your canoe at all!

Most of us unconsciously spend our lives upstream, which doesn’t feel that good.   The longer we spend upstream, the more negative emotion we will feel.   The more negative emotion we feel, the more likely we are to feel stuck, anxious and depressed.

The Stream is your Emotions.

When we allow our canoe to go upstream, by beating ourselves up, feeling bad and believing our negative thoughts, it won’t feel good and we will experience negative emotions in our body.   Life will just feel like hard work and a struggle!  However, when  we take our canoe downstream,  we will feel lots of positive emotion in our body! We can take our canoe downstream by being kind to ourselves, being our own best friend, and tuning into our authentic self.

Here are a few examples of Upstream and Downstream Emotions on our Personal Stream:

  • Beating yourself up 
  • Not being authentic to yourself 
  • Feel disempowered 
  • Feel helpless / Stressed 
  • Worry 
  • Frustrated 
  • Struggle 


Downstream =

  • In the flow 
  • Feel Empowered 
  • Fun, Joy, Compassion
  • Being authentic 
  • Nice to yourself
  • Looking after your wellbeing
  • Kind and Patient with yourself
  • Expectation of good things  


Think about your week so far – how has it felt?  Upstream or downstream?

How about when you got up this morning or while you were at work? Did your personal stream  feel upstream or downstream?

Each day we have a choice – we have a choice to deliberately focus our thoughts in a downstream way, or struggle with life in an upstream way.

However, the key to this is caring how you feel.

Tune in to next weeks blog for more information on the way to live a ‘ good feeling’ downstream life!

Lisa Phillips – Award Winning Life CCoach

Previously based in Sydney, Australia,   Lisa Phillips is an award winning Life Coach, Wellness Speaker and the author of ‘The Confidence Coach’ book.     Lisa provides face to face Life Coaching, Group Coaching and Skype Coaching around the world.  Her work is also regularly featured in the media.

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